Off the Record
10 going on 16
13/02/2008 17:00:34I was on FLY FM one morning. Phat Fabes and Ben got me in and asked me a question, live on air.
“It’s Valentine’s Day soon,” Phat Fabes asked. “If your daughter was 16 and wanted to go on a date, what would you do?”
What I said next, I couldn’t believe.
“Well I wouldn’t allow it,” I said, before I could stop myself. “My mother only allowed me to go on dates in my 20s so there’s no way I will allow her to go on a date before she’s 18”.
I was a little horrified with what I said. I sounded so much like….like…like an old traditional-type father person.
I went out of the studio feeling weird. My daughter’s only turning 11 this year. I have never thought about what I would do if she wants to go out on a date when she’s 16. Or even earlier.
Do I stop her? Do I only allow her to certain places? What would my mother say?
Anyone out there can give me some advice?
87 Comments posted
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i think :- don't stop her, but keep an close eye. I guess, if ur daughter trust u enough,she will share details of the date:)hehe! and, young ppl are learning faster these days!
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well,i dont thin dat u r being traditional-type person.. i do believe dat it depends on location n attitude frankly..
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what the hell??oi...kita org timur lah...my father bagi belt theraphy if my sister wanted to go out...i dont hafal sifir,i tidur luar...dont follow westerns...look what they have become..they left their parents alone and some of them hate them..your anak pijak your head??no way...trust me on this one..my friend said...if i teach my son and daughters discipline,his gonna grow up fine..at least like me(look who we are now...this is proof our parent is right)..."if i scold them that is for the
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..that is for their good,and im sure restrictions makes them come out independent,know right and wrong,a better person that is...I believe so much better with a parents with loose rules..." -and that comes from a friend...a very close friend of mine..i agree with him.. bukan 4/7 kita marah-marah or strict..we give them what they want..but they must learn how world wont follow their way all the time...because if you let loose now,one day when you gone...he/she will learn the hardest way...
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well i know i would be upset wif my parents if they dun allow me to go out wif a guy i really like...if fact some of my frens lie to their parents and sneak out anyway...i'm sure u'd rather know where they are then havin them sneaking out wif god knows who n where...so let her go if she really wants to but be aware of the kind of guy he is n every detail u can get...or u can even do the scary dad interogation thingy to the guy...muahahaha...pz
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hi there.. i think.. it's just not time yet.. maybe 18 will be better,, but not 16.. i'm not being old-fashioned here,, but i do believe that it's the right way to deal with it.. my parents didn't let me as well when i was younger.. i know it's for my own good.. but teens ARE teens.. We tend to be kinda rebellious sometimes, really.. though i didn't do anything that hurts them.. if you choose to let her,, remember to keep a close eye..( but not like freaking paranoid dad larr).. if you tru
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Ya, havin ur daughter's respect and trust is gonna be much better in long run. I'd let her go..from as soon as she wants to, but with some guidelines at first. Let her know that ONE time letting you down will change everything. She should knw also, that a decent guy will prefer a trustworthy girl.
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if you love the person,let them go..:) they will eventually come back and realize that you love them...
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they will eventually come back??come back like gillian chung is it??..i quite agree with paul...they need to know that 1 time letting you down will change everything..
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First and foremost, I have just turn 17 years old last January and i am a chinese girl. My parents allow me to have a man in my life. Mostly they think i am responsible enough to handle relationship at my age. They also said that my boyfriend is great and i am mature to take care of myself. And on V-day i stayed at home to study for my SPM. I only go out with my boyfriend once per 3 months. So what i am trying to say is: Parents should allow their child freedom based on their child's ability
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